How to kiss or how to french through kissing, a how to guide of french kissing

Your essential guide to having the perfect Kiss, shaping your relationship through sensual kissing

A kiss sets the mood for your entire sexual experience with your partner.

The key to good kissing is to actively use your lips. I've kissed people that didn't use their lips at all.
They would just tense up their lips and leave them like that. It felt like I was trying to kiss a statue.

Relax, or at least make a mental effort to relax your lips - allow them to be soft and pliable.

As you start to kiss, try gently brushing their cheek with them, or run them along their neck just barely making contact with their skin.

Don't be afraid to use your breath.
Nothing gets me hotter than feeling someone's warm breath on my neck, or someone gently blowing in my ear. It always sends goose bumps down my neck, back, and arms.

This type of gentle foreplay with your partner is extremely sensual and builds up sexual tension.
It can also serve to establish nonverbal communication between the two of you. Their reactions to this sort of foreplay will give your first indications of their overall sexual responsiveness.

As you get into it, you'll probably start using your tongue.
Run or flick your tongue across their lips, moistening them slightly without actually kissing them.
When you do finally kiss, make sure to lick your own lips from time to time to ensure their softness.

It's not very pleasant to kiss someone whose lips have the texture of sandpaper!

When you use your tongue on their neck, gently run it around their earlobe and ear.
If they likes it, try sucking their earlobe - but not their ear.

You may want to cover their entire ear with your mouth and gently exhale.
Try not to inhale while doing this, and don't exhale too quickly because the rushing air will make them feel like they're in a wind tunnel.

When starting to "French" kiss, open your mouth just slightly. I can't tell you how many times I went to French someone and they opened their mouth widely sticking their tongue all the way out. I felt like I was frenching a horse. You're trying to kiss them... not eat a burger!

Let your partner accept the tip of your tongue into their mouth, and vice versa.
As you get more intense, try sucking lightly on your partner's tongue - be careful not to suck too hard, making them feel like you're trying to rip their tongue from their mouth.

Try gently nibbling or sucking on your partner's lips.
Feel their texture, softness, and even their taste with your tongue.
Though it's generally subtle and easily unnoticed, the lips of different people do actually have their own unique flavour.

Be a creative kisser and always be aware of your teeth.
It's not really pleasant to be French kissing someone and feeling her teeth scrape the area around your mouth. Though teeth can effectively be used for fun.

A light bite or nibble on your partner's chin can be a display of passionate sexual aggression :-)
When kissing someone - kiss them the same way you enjoy being kissed. Think back and remember kissing someone that really turned you on by their kissing. How did they kiss you? What was so different about the way they kissed you? Try imitating those methods with your future partners.

I've found that most people kiss with their eyes closed.
Ignore the impulse to close your eyes when kissing and try opening them occasionally.

It adds a new perspective to the experience.

When kissing other parts of your partner's body see if you can find their sensitive areas without asking them where they are. Explore their body with your lips and pay attention to their feedback. Do they tense up? Do they hold you tighter? Does their breathing change? Are they smiling, etc.?

Some commonly sensitive areas are - love handles, the insides of thighs, the belly button, nipples, armpits, the small of the back, backs of knees, and so on. The "hot spots" vary greatly from one person to another, as do degrees of sensitivity. Again, closely read their feedback, or they may end up being bored when you're earnestly doing your best to stimulate them.

Once again don't be afraid to use your imagination - be creative, be playful, have fun with it. If you make an effort to be in-tune with your partner, chances are they'll return the favour and both of you will have a better time.